If skunks do it, why can’t I?

Bears do it.

Skunks do it.

Even bees do it.

So it’s not such a stretch of the imagination to want to hibernate every once in a while.

Four month nap? Don't mind if I do...

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The last few months have defined a new normal for our family: kindergarten, school buses, packed lunches.  Early (reeeeally early) mornings.  New responsibilities at work and at home.

I’ve been burning the candle at both ends to keep up with these changes.  They are all great in the long run, but just because it’s good doesn’t mean it’s easy.

I’ve become a full-time working mom who also is a part-time stay at home mom.  I work 35 hours in the office but I’m home by 2:20 each afternoon when that school bus rolls in.

Regardless of the hour, trust that I'm late for something.

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Surprisingly, I adore being at work early.  I have a full hour (or even 2!) of quiet time to get real work done before I march through my parade of endless meetings.

Not surprisingly, I love being there when Peanut gets off the bus. We sit, we snack, we unpack her bag.  I hear whatever she wants to share about her day and we spend the afternoons finding creative ways to do homework, enjoy the outdoors, or just playing.

The assignment was, "Draw and label a fall scene." We chose our front porch and set up an outdoor art station.

But my new schedule means I’ve lost any give in my day.  There’s no time to drop off a prescription or pick up the dry cleaning.  There’s no stolen time to catch up with a friend or peruse the makeup aisle in Target.  Every second of my waking day, from 5:30 am to 7:30pm, I’m either a mom or an employee.

I’m not complaining.  I do realize that these are first world problems or, as my mom would call them, “delicious dilemmas.”  I’m just validating (to myself) why I’ve been a little overwhelmed lately.

But when I recently became jealous of the fuzzy woodland creatures preparing to climb into a hidey-hole until Spring, I realized that I needed to address the issue directly.

We had planned to take the kids to visit family this weekend.  But when I talked it over with B, he offered to take the kids on his own and let me have 24 hours to just be.

<pause for a moment of silent awe at my amazing partner>

So what did I do with my 24 hours of hibernation?  I was completely and totally selfish.

I spent five hours shopping (with coupons and gift cards) and then Facebooked about it.

Oh, and those shoes? I may cuddle with them tonight.

 

I cleaned out a closet and assembled some clothes for donation.  (This actually is selfish because I’ve been complaining about the clutter for months.)

I ordered Chinese food delivery and ate right out of the box.  On the couch.  Without a napkin.

I like to live on the edge.

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I watched hours of worthless television.

Well hellllooooo, Vampire Diaries. So nice to meet you.

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I went to bed late and slept in even later.

Just like this but with less eye make up and more drool.

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In the morning, I drank a whole pot of coffee.  Then watched more worthless television (I get some points here for folding laundry while watching tv, right?  RIGHT?)

And like that skunk, I emerged from my hibernation feeling refreshed, relaxed, and rejuvenated.

Let's just hope I smell better.

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31 comments
Anne at Always Half Full
Anne at Always Half Full

It was like a mini-vacay! And I really think you should be jealous of the skunk's ability to spray stank on offending passerbys. I'd like that ability some days. Want another after contract hour meeting? SPRAY! Don't care about your kid or their education? SPRAY! You took the last pack of Oreos off the grocery shelf? SPRAY! Gas now costs 20 cents more than yesterday? SPRAY! I could go on forever...

Jennifer Fabulous
Jennifer Fabulous

Yowza! It sounds like you had an incredibly busy "hibernation." Hehe. :) I definitely understand what you mean about hibernating though. I actually was just thinking the same exact thing yesterday during a walk. I was wishing I could snuggle in a hole all winter and then wake up when it's spring. LOL!

Courtney
Courtney

Loved this! And felt a bit jealous too - sounds like a lovely hibernation! Ironically, I recently wrote a post about how nice it was just to have a happy hour and about rediscovering how important "me" time is for a number of reasons. (It hasn't posted yet but I think Thursday is the day.) And one big thing is reveling in it! I'm glad you enjoyed yours to the fullest! So often we moms feel guilty about doing things for ourselves, but we NEED it. Glad you had this experience! :)

Stephanie
Stephanie

Hibernating is a viable lifestyle choice! How are things going with kindergarten? I'd love an update on how the creative problem-solving's going...I've been thinking about you and your mornings on and off!

Ameena
Ameena

I would love to be at work early and then home by 2:20! What an ideal schedule. Kudos to you for taking some time for yourself. You deserve it! And I am suddenly inspired to do the same. :)

Linda
Linda

Kudos for you and to your partner! Amazing that he was thoughtful to take the kids and give you time- and super amazing congratulations for taking the time to yourself and enjoying and treasuring it! You will be a better mom/partner/employee because of it. You are my hero of the day!!

Hopes@Staying Afloat!
Hopes@Staying Afloat!

Oh Ryan, I'm so glad you got some much deserved down time!! And Dear Ryan's husband...WAY TO GO!!! I will be getting some alone time next month and I simply cannot wait!!

Elena
Elena

That sounds like a great 24 hours. I'd love to go into hibernation. Seriously, bears are genius!

Mads
Mads

I'm impressed that you spent any of that 24 hour time period cleaning closets. BRAVO! B wins a gold star, and yes, husband of the year award. If I had 24 hours alone, I think I would cry tears of happiness and then sleep through the rest of it.

Missy | Literal Mom
Missy | Literal Mom

Sounds like the best 24 hours ever. Glad you had the time. Someday can you teach me to do what you did with that FB shot?

Life As Wife
Life As Wife

Glad you got a well deserved hibernation! Its funny what even 24 hours will do for you!!

Abby
Abby

There is NOTHING better than being able to take some time for yourself. Good for you! And your hubby is officially the Blog Husband of the Month! (trophy to be mailed in 5-7 business days.)

sherilinr
sherilinr

isn't it fabulous when the husband steps up & gives you a glorious break that you so badly need? i think it makes everyone's life better when all family members who need a break, get one periodically. i think i'd spend far too many hours in bed ALONE if i was given a free weekend. there's something amazing about being in bed during daylight hours with no noise in the house.

KLZ
KLZ

In a completely non-sexual way, I want your husband. I'm not sure mine would do that.

Chion Wolf
Chion Wolf

Less makeup and more drool!!! :D I'm glad you got a chance to catch your breath... B gets Husband of the Year! (The year is starting over again soon, so he gets at least a few months to soak up the glory)

Mark
Mark

I laughed all the way though this. I work less than 5 minutes from home. So as soon as I leave work, I'm home with the chaos of the kid's lives. My first reaction is to get a glass of wine quickly. I can't believe you ate Chinese food on the sofa without a napkin. You're a wild woman! I bet you "party like it's 1999" too, don't you? Don't you just love waking up in the morning without the kids? I know, it sounds kind of selfish but drinking coffee in peace is one of the best feeling in the world. Great post! I'm not a big F.B or Twitterer any more but I'll come visit you later today. m.

The Woven Moments
The Woven Moments

OMG I think you just found your next blog post, "What I would do as a skunk." Hilarious.

The Woven Moments
The Woven Moments

It was a busy hibernation...but mostly because sitting still is a painful experience for me. I really think the bears are on to something, though. I mean...even MOM bears get 3 months off. Craziness.

The Woven Moments
The Woven Moments

Thanks, Courtney! I think this post describes perfectly the reason I call my man a "partner" more often than a "husband."

The Woven Moments
The Woven Moments

The creative problem solving is really helping. The most helpful part? The wishful talking....that seems to get Peanut out of her "life is terrible" place every time. Kindergarten is going much more smoothly now, though we've hit some minor academic bumps. Me? I still struggle with perfection....wanting her to do her homework perfectly, wanting her to hold her pencil a certain way, etc. etc. I'm learning. I'm learning.

The Woven Moments
The Woven Moments

It's not lost on my how ridiculously lucky I am to have the work schedule I've got. Truly blessed. I hope you get some alone time soon! It's life giving, it really is. ((hugs))

The Woven Moments
The Woven Moments

You are too kind! I think we can both agree that it's my husband who deserves the major kudos. He's awesome.

The Woven Moments
The Woven Moments

My husband is flying high after reading all the nice things about him in the comments of this post. Oh and also? He's requested his own hibernation period.... ;)

The Woven Moments
The Woven Moments

Apparently, bees and skunks and bears have figured out a way to get what every mother craves....time alone. sleeping.

The Woven Moments
The Woven Moments

Do you mean how I got a screen shot of my FB status? DM me. I'll do a step by step for you.

The Woven Moments
The Woven Moments

I'll be watching for that trophy (and secretly hoping it's in pinata form...)

The Woven Moments
The Woven Moments

Amen, sister. Sleeping in may have been the best part of the whole weekend.

The Woven Moments
The Woven Moments

I realize it's obnoxious to brag on your husband on the internet, but some things deserve a serious shout out. And this? was definitely one of them.

The Woven Moments
The Woven Moments

I think he's won Husband of the Year every year since 2006. It's in the bag, baby.

The Woven Moments
The Woven Moments

Oh you KNOW I'm crazy. I drank 4 (FOUR!) caffeine free diet cokes. In a row. Watch out.

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