90/10 Rule

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Holy Moly it’s 2012!  Happy New Year, friends!

We’re all ready to put our best foot forward into this new year.  We are full of hope,  energy, and goals. Right? RIGHT!?!?!

Me neither.

But before I drag myself kicking and screaming into creating resolutions (and I will), I need to first explain my 90/10 rule.

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The 90/10 Rule:

I’ve got 90% of my life well-handled.

The other 10% is atrociously mis-managed.

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When creating my resolutions, I won’t have to address the 90% of my life that’s going well. Instead, I’ll just have to attach the 10% of my life that is so bad, I’m embarrassed to share it with you.

To illustrate this point, I ask you to bear with me as I summarize the 90% with as little smugness as possible.  Never fear, however, the 10% will more than make up for any of my strengths.

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Things I Don’t Suck At


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My Marriage

We are great partners.  Where I falter, he picks up the slack.  He doesn’t falter much but when he does I try to do the same.

We are nice to each other.  But when we aren’t, we apologize.

We are each other’s biggest fans.

We understand each other’s obsession with our respective iPhones.

It’s true love.

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My Career

I love what I do because I’m naturally pretty good at it.  I’m not saving the world or curing a disease; I’m a project manager for a large financial institution. (More on being a project manager later this week.  I’m going to dork out on you in new and special ways.  Stay tuned.)

Being a PM lends itself to my, ahem, controlling nature.  I’m actually REWARDED for micro-managing details.  It’s a beautiful thing.

The last few months have presented new, exciting, challenging opportunities at work and I’m proud of the way I’ve risen to the occasion.

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My work-life balance

In 2011 I made a decision that I was sure would negatively impact my career trajectory- I scaled back my hours and committed to being home for Peanut when she got off the bus from Kindergarten.

Instead of being mommy tracked, however, I was afforded with even more opportunity at work (see above) AND I was able to be at home in the afternoons, without having a laptop humming next to me.  I feel like I’m living in a dream.

 

 

I could go on but who really wants to read about how great things are going for someone else?  

(Unless you are my dad.  Hi Dad!)

No, the atrocious 10% is far more interesting, I promise.  So what, pray tell, does a successful working mother mis-manage to the point of public humiliation?

 

Things That Could Land Me On Reality TV

The Bedroom

Why yes, that IS a tv-dinner-tray-table being used as a nightstand, covered by a pillow case.  Because in the 11+ years we’ve been together, B and I have never purchased furniture for our master bedroom.  Not a bed, not dressers, not a night stand.

Every piece of furniture we own in our bedroom has come from Salvation Army (dressers), or was a gift (tv cabinet), or I made myself (curtains, headboard), or has been repurposed (tray-table-as-nightstand).

Oprah says that your home should rise up to meet you.  I’m not sure our bedroom quite fits that bill.

 

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Meal Time

Our family currently has widely varying nutritional needs.  My food plan includes zero flour or sugar (read here to find out why).  B recently went vegan.  And while Pumpkin will literally eat anything (including dog food), Peanut would prefer to survive on corn dogs alone.

It has become normal over the last year to prepare at least 3 different meals for each dinner time.  One for me (which I often share with Pumpkin), one for B, and one for Peanut.  Somehow in the process of getting the parents healthy, we’ve managed to downgrade the kids’ food to shameful, over-processed, flash-frozen-then-reheated foods.

And in case you are wondering, organic corn dogs are no less gross and no more nutritious than regular ones.  Trust us, we know.

 

Peanut’s room

I shared about how we decorated Peanut’s room back in the Spring over at my girl Tina’s blog, Life Without Pink.

What I didn’t mention is that Peanut is nearly six.  And still sleeping in her toddler bed.

We moved a double bed into her room months ago, which she refuses to sleep in because it’s too big.  So her room is now crowded with two beds.  One which is way too big, and one that is barely long enough to contain her.

What we’ve got here is a classic Goldilocks situation.

Peanut sees nothing wrong with this scenario but I know that we are just one play-date-gone-wrong away from a social disaster.

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 The dog

Marigold is the sweetest dog ever.  She greets you with a full body wag and her version of a smile every time you walk in the door.  Even if you just went to check the mail.

But 10% of the time this dog is a total lunatic.

Remember the $2000 box of raisins?  (I could stop right here, but allow me to go on…)

Marigold barks NON STOP when anyone walks by.  I can’t tell you how many nap times have been spoiled by a single bark.

Even worse, she will knock over anyone and anything in her way to get to a house guest first.  She only wants to be pet, of course, but I doubt the UPS man believes that when he sees a 75 pound dog running full speed for him.

It takes her about 15 minutes to calm down after a guest arrives, during which time she will cover the guest in dog hair, slobber, and co-dependent begging to be pet.

Some people find this adorable.  But I’m pretty sure they are lying.

 

The Craft Room

I swore  that I would never, ever share a picture of this room on the blog.  But if I don’t publicly shame myself, I may never clean it up.

We use this room as a home office for my husband and as the place that crafts go to die craft room.

Clearly, I’m doing my part to keep my side clean.

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The van

I’m sparing you a picture on this one.  You’re welcome.

In this post, I shared with you how cluttered I’ll let my minivan get before cleaning it.  (I’m not proud.)  That post was written back in April.  You’d think I would have learned my lesson by now, right?

Wrong.

I ran to my nearest car wash in a panic mere hours before my family showed up for Christmas.  I paid a pretty penny to have a team of folks vacuum, dust, and scrub the inside of my car.  (I could care less about the exterior.)

About half way through, I looked out the window and saw a man pull an unidentifiable (but very old) piece of food out from under the 2-year-old’s car seat.

And he gagged.

HE GAGGED.

Need I say more?

 

Later this week, when I attempt to create a list of resolutions for 2012, I’ll be attacking by 10%.

Hopefully without gagging.

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52 comments
Jamie
Jamie

That pic of you and your girls squeezing is my FAVE!! This is good perspective I think... it's important to remind ourselves that we are good at some things!! Glad you came back again!

The Woven Moments
The Woven Moments

That pic is my have, too. It really captures the spirit of both my kids.

Miss Marina Star
Miss Marina Star

I love the concept of 90/10. Take heart knowing that your 10% is my 10%, especially when it comes to eating, the master bedroom and my mom-mobile. I'm still too ashamed to post pictures, so good for you for blogging with integrity! :)

The Woven Moments
The Woven Moments

I'm not sure if that's integrity or complete lack of shame, but either way I'll take it. :)

Just Jennifer
Just Jennifer

Well it looks to me like you've got the truly important stuff down pat. All the other things you could work on, are minor in comparison to your marriage, job, balance... I think you'll get better at the other things when you're darn good and ready!

The Woven Moments
The Woven Moments

Apparently I'll never be good and ready to tackle the craft room. Ever. :)

Kimberly
Kimberly

Your willingness to share the photo of your craft room is inspiring. I also have a room in similar condition and am not brave enough to allow even my kids enter. I mean, then how do I say, "Clean up your room," with any credibility? Great post! Kimberly

The Woven Moments
The Woven Moments

I'm not brave enough to show the craft room to guests, but I'll share it with the world on the Internet. It's fuzzy math. ;)

Tomekha
Tomekha

Hey, we don have to be perfect at all things in life - just the things that really matter and ur pretty good at things that matter so *thumbs up* 's the imperfections that add character.

The Woven Moments
The Woven Moments

You are so right. I'll take a happy marriage over a fancy bedside table ANY DAY. Thanks for visiting!

Lolo
Lolo

Great post!! And the fact that you had the time to document all of that!! I am impressed. Unfortunately, my ratio probably would be the other way around. (Visiting from LoveLinks)

The Woven Moments
The Woven Moments

Thanks for stopping by! Lovelinks is great for discovering new blogs, isn't it? Time is in short order around these parts...so I decided to just stop sleeping. (I kid, I kid)

Trish
Trish

I think your 10% is pretty darn good! The craft room, well, arts and crafts ARE messy. The bedroom: I agree. Call it "minimalist". And the gagging detail guy? He was probably just hungover and it had nothing to do with whatever he scraped out of the seat. LOL.

The Woven Moments
The Woven Moments

I'm a minimalist. I love it. And I love the idea of a hungover car wash attendant. I'm totally off the hook! Brilliant!!

Jackie
Jackie

Overall, I think you've got the right mindset. 90% success rate is still an A (well in most classes) so you're above average -dare I say Magna Cum Laude in the life business! I think my 3.5 yr old wouldn't know what to do with a double bed either. I believe she might have camped out on the floor!!

The Woven Moments
The Woven Moments

I get a Magna Cum Laude in LIFE! Can you please put that in writing, frame it, and send it to me my husband? Kthanks.

Eric Storch
Eric Storch

In all seriousness, I'll take your 10% over my 50% any day. Don't be embarrassed about room furnishings or clutter. I think the TV-table-turned-night-stand is a creative way to re-purpose. And who sees your bedroom besides you and your husband anyway? ;P

The Woven Moments
The Woven Moments

I think that's why we've never done our bedroom...it's the one room no one ELSE sees. I think "repurposing" should be the new trend. Then I'll be totally en vogue!

Alison@Mama Wants This
Alison@Mama Wants This

I'd say 90% is awesome. The rest - can be done over 12 months, no problem. One project a month, how's that? I'd start with the meal planning, which can be carried on every month. I say this when I sorta meal plan and don't follow through 50% of the time.

The Woven Moments
The Woven Moments

I think you are SO right about tackling things one month at a time. As for the meal planning, we had a family meeting last week and decided that we'd be making one meal per dinnertime BUT that the kids would be allowed/responsible for helping us plan the meals. So they get a say in what we are having. The two year old replied, "ZZA! ZAA!" (meaning pizza. Awesome.) (I prioritized my resolutions using a matrix in today's post. Because I'm a total loser and apparently have far too much time on my hands....)

Jenny Leigh
Jenny Leigh

Your 10% is like my 25%. Oh, how I wish I could hone my 25 down to 10. In my opinion you rock!

The Woven Moments
The Woven Moments

We all think our 10% is more like 25%. But look around your life, you are doing just fine. :) You rock too, lady!

XLMIC
XLMIC

You definitely have the more important 90 handled awesomely :) That remaining 10? Ehhhh... go easy on yourself :)

The Woven Moments
The Woven Moments

That 10% just gets my goat. But the only way to minimize it is to tackle it one thing at a time.

matt
matt

I thought the van looked great!

The Woven Moments
The Woven Moments

The van DID look great, after a thorough wash, vacuum, and shampoo. Money well spent.

Jen
Jen

So - just to reinforce that your 90% is all the right stuff. Nice job prioritizing! Here is a sampling of my 10%....paying for home phone service, bought brand new phone, but have never turned on the ringer. "The Basket of Desapir" in the kitchen holds everything from bills that need to be paid to hair brushes, legos, recipes, and artwork. It maybe gets cleaned out once a month when it is time to pay bills. I have lived in my house for 2 years and still have no curtains in my bedroom. (note that for 2 years "buy curtains" has been on the to-do list. Seriously. I can show you the list.)

The Woven Moments
The Woven Moments

I love your 10% and much of it could have made my list, too. The Basket of Despair is my personal fave, tho. I don't think ours even gets cleaned out once a month, so you're doing great! Also? I think curtains may be my personal nemesis. We must discuss more at lunch!

jamie smith
jamie smith

Have I told you lately that I love you? This post is only the most recent of a bazillion examples of why. Yes, an entire bazillion.

The Woven Moments
The Woven Moments

Back atcha lady. Imperfection is cute. Or, at least that's what I was going for in this post...

Abby
Abby

I love this blog. First of all, I'm not brave enough to share my faults. Because I think it would drive people away from my blog in droves. (It might involve pictures of my chicken wing arm fat. And that's just wrong.) Secondly, it seems like your 10% is easily fixed. You just need 4 or 5 kid-free weekends and a relatively large budget. Oh, wait...

The Woven Moments
The Woven Moments

I really think I could knock it out in ONE kid free weekend or TWO kid free sick mental health days. You've given me something to shoot for there, Abby. Off to catch a cold (or two)...

Mary
Mary

Okay, 2 things- 1, stop looking at your master bedroom as repurposed, and look at it as minimal environmental impact! Your carbon footprint is SO MUCH LOWER than normal, yay you! And 2, Marigold IS adorable. Anyone that doesn't love a greeting like that is crazy. You just described the very reason dogs have been named "man's best friend," because who else will EVER be so effusive in their praise of a total stranger? So IMHO, you're more like 5% now ;)

The Woven Moments
The Woven Moments

OMG 5% is TOTALLY MANAGEABLE! Off to avoid future gagging and clean my car....

Linda
Linda

Its a Tuesday ( almost said Monday) after a holiday weekend- have not done one resolution - should be working and am LAUGHING OUT LOUD- at your blog- thank you - I have been gloomy and this is the first good laugh I had this year - THANK YOU I needed that

Eve
Eve

That's all you have to work on? Dude, you're so my hero! I haven't done a single thing to our bedroom either since we moved in over 5 years ago. Ugh! This year I'll....probably do the same as last year. Nothing!

The Woven Moments
The Woven Moments

I'm glad I"m not alone on the bedroom furniture thing. Although, I am currently redecorating the room and I've even picked out REAL bedside tables! Swoon! If you are on pinterest, you can check them out. :) Hugs!

Anne at Always Half Full
Anne at Always Half Full

Our dog is the same way. 80 pounds that thinks he's a cute little chihuahua. It's embarrassing. I like your idea of looking at the 90 vs 10. You feel great about the things going right which helps you feel more motivated about attacking the 10. I'll have to do that for my resolutions this year.

The Woven Moments
The Woven Moments

Our dogs would be BFFs, clearly. And my 90% is going so well that I don't mind showing my a$$ on my 10%. Happy New Year, Anne! Hope you are feeling great!

Sunny
Sunny

Your 10% is really not that bad. Life needs some interesting stuff. I can get the craft room. The rest isn't bad to me. My 10% included, until very recently, not going to the dentist since probably about the last time I saw you in person. That was a nervous trip (got away with only 3 cavities). Right now I have things like 2000+ unread messages in a Gmail account, $4.95 monthly fee I automatically have deducted on a Juno account I don't use and have used much in the last 7+ years, and my messy office at work, which includes boxes from when I stopped teaching 6 years ago that have moved with me at least five times and are still unpacked and stacked up. :-) Happy New Year!

The Woven Moments
The Woven Moments

I LOVE your 10%! Thank you for making me feel normal!!! I took a 10 year vacation from the dentist once. Never. Again. Happy New Year, Sunny!

Poppy
Poppy

I learned a lot about you in this post. The fact that the guy gagged at the food in your minivan made me laugh (and feel better about my own!) Happy New Year!

The Woven Moments
The Woven Moments

You probably learned TOO much abut me in this post. But what is blogging if not a place to chronically overshare?

Jennifer G
Jennifer G

Sounds pretty normal to me! Especially the craft room...I get so many wonderful ideas on pinrest, hit Michaels to buy the materials and then they languish on my craft desk. I keep saying that adding a bookcase or two in there would help to organize my crafting collection...but instead of buy the bookcases I buy more stamps and paper. My house otherwise is pretty clean because I'm the opposite of a hoarder...I just don't save anything...which annoys my "collector" husband. I was raised by a true hoarder and I just cannot tolerate stacks of anything now lol. He has learned to keep his stacks of ungraded papers and sheet music at the office. (After the whoopsie when I threw away 7 classes writing assignments thinking they were from 2 years prior.) You know 90% is considered passing so I'd just be thrilled with that.

The Woven Moments
The Woven Moments

Sadly, I can't blame my craft room on Pinterest (although, the way I've been obsessed with it lately, I may just borrow that excuse! Thanks!). It was this bad long before I started pinning. Good thing there's a door on the room. If you can't see it, it isn't there. Right?

By Word of Mouth Musings
By Word of Mouth Musings

If you have to serve food in the car - only serve fast food french fries. Why? Bbecause, there is no way to determine just how long they have been there ;)

The Woven Moments
The Woven Moments

It's a little scary that french fries don't age. But that doesn't make you any less of a genius for suggesting them.

sparkling74
sparkling74

I too would like to do a makeover of my craft room but I just can't seem to do it. I've thought that if I post a picture of it that might make me get on it, just like you, but I'm afraid it would just haunt and taunt me as I neglect to actually tackle it. I don't know how it gets as bad as it does!

The Woven Moments
The Woven Moments

A makeover would be lovely. But I'd settle for being able to see the floor. Or the furniture.

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